Sandra and Sattie

Sattie (she/her) and I (they/them) met through TikTok. She posted a dancing video to Lizzo’s "About Damn Time". I added her, and when she added me back, I took a chance. I let her know I thought she was gorgeous, and when she complemented my boldness, I made sure she knew that I had used all of it in that one line. Honestly, I didn’t know if it would turn into anything, but we are married now. Marrying her has been the best choice I’ve ever made in my life.

I think queer love is just so expansive. It breaks all boxes and expectations. It doesn’t have to look any one way, and I think that is what sometimes scares people, because they can’t define it or may not even be able to imagine it. Queer joy is limitless.

To me, being in a queer relationship feels like belonging. Like I can be myself without fear. It’s not me against the world; it’s us against whatever may come and that gives me comfort.

I hope in any relationship people pursue they find comfort and peace, they find joy and excitement, I hope they find joy and belonging. We are all worthy of being loved and affirmed. We are all worthy of feeling safe and loved abundantly.